The conflict can sometimes be very revealing in relationships. Not only are the arguments often not even on what they are supposed to, but on several occasions, an apparently small upheaval opens the box of problems of a pandora which suddenly gives that the relationship seems to be on the rocks – or perhaps even already finished.
This was the case for a man on Reddit whose little argument with his wife revealed a whole dynamic hidden from their relationship that he is no longer willing to endure.
The man decided that he wanted to divorce after his wife “vomited” in his kitchen.
At first glance, it seems almost outright childish, but it ended up being very revealing. It all started about a month ago when the man, a passionate cook, put on a homemade Salisbury steak plate and potato puree in front of his wife and she pretended to gag after the smallest bite.
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“She made an exaggerated retick sound, radically threw her fork into the plate and went to heat a burrito in the microwave,” wrote man in his original article. “I just broke”, and the next day, when he dinner, he didn’t give him anything. “I informed her that I finished cooking for her.”
Naturally, it turned into a fight, but he held the ground. “She says that instead of giving up, I should try a little louder,” he wrote. “I think she should simply survive the microwaveable slope she likes and stop complaining.”
If you read this little fight and thinking Sheesh, it is a couple with a lot of problems much more important than the different opinions on the kitchen, you would be right. And the man in question has now reached this conclusion itself.
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After the kitchen incident, he began to notice that his wife is constantly critical of him.
“The last month was really revealing for me,” he wrote in a follow-up article. “I realized that she is really critical about everything I do.” This even includes the way he works.
Man is in the pigon, which is generally a problem with one or more bones in the legs or feet-that is, not something that most people can do anything. Nevertheless, it seems to make the woman of this crazy type. She said one day exasperated to him: “Why don’t you try to walk with your straight feet?”
Which is of course not how it works. “Yes. Thank you. My literal bone problem was simply healed by your advice,” wrote the man.
Soon he had a whole list of things he realized that his wife seemed to hate him – the decor of his office, the way he is laundry, the way he interacts with his colleagues. When he tried to have a conversation with her, she refused all this and asked that he will give her dates and moments of when she did all these things – which is a common manipulation tactic.
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Speaking frankly, two people do not hate each other and they have to divorce. Period.
No judgments, and I am certainly not an expert in relation, but I am continuously surprised by relations like this. We have all known this couple – the one when it is clear as the day they grew up to hate each other, but are so terrified to be alone, they are ready to be miserable together if it means not having to sail in life.
This man and his wife have children, so it is surely incredibly complicated. But the obvious fact remains: this relationship has been, and it has already been for some time. All that remains is to make it official. And they both ruin themselves by digging in their heels.
They also hurt their children. Studies have shown several times that when it comes to high conflict weddings – which it is, even if they do not cry and do not necessarily cry – divorce tends to improve the suffering of long -term children, especially with regard to depression and anxiety, not the worst.
“I realized that I no longer really like my wife,” said the man. “It makes me sad, but in the coming days, I will ask him for a divorce.” For legal and emotional reasons, however, there should be no requests. There should simply be an immediate call to a lawyer (especially given the legality of the guard) and to roll the ball. This marriage is already over, and nobody makes favors while staying there.
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John Sundholm is a writer, publisher and video personality with 20 years of experience in the media and entertainment. It covers culture, mental health and subjects of human interest.
