Vegan doesn’t want to pay for friend’s birthday dinner at BBQ restaurant
|It’s normal to want to do something nice for a friend on their birthday. Treating the birthday boy and a group of friends to dinner is incredibly generous, but that’s exactly what one person planned to do for his friend, Luke.
Things just didn’t go as planned.
A vegan offered to pay for his friend’s birthday dinner, but he chose a barbecue restaurant.
In an anonymous post on Reddit, someone shared their unique and frustrating situation. “My friend Luke is 40 and I offered to pay for him and a group of our friends to have dinner wherever Luke wanted,” they said.
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Instead of this being accepted as an incredibly kind gesture, Luke made the situation more than a little uncomfortable.
“Luke has known I’ve been vegan since my 20s, and it’s never been an issue before,” the friend said. “When I asked where he made the reservations, he said it was a local barbecue joint here famous for its menu that makes fun of people who don’t eat meat.”
The friend explained that the menu “literally has a section that says, ‘Vegetarian options: don’t let the door hit you on the way out.’
According to the friend, “I asked what he expected me to eat, and he got angry and said, well, it’s his birthday, so it shouldn’t matter, i should eat before arriving and just order drinks while everyone else is having dinner. while enjoying everyone’s company etc.
This friend made it clear that they didn’t expect Luke to choose a place that would be a good fit for them. “I didn’t expect Luke to choose a vegan place at all,” they said. “I expected him to choose a steakhouse and I would have been fine with a salad and some sides.”
“I didn’t expect him to choose a place that prides itself on having meat in every dish on the menu,” they sadly admitted.
At this point, they felt bad about “taking back” the gift. Then again: “It’s a party of nine, so I also feel upset about spending over $300 on a meal I can’t eat.”
Other Reddit users felt outraged by the vegan friend.
Commenters on the post didn’t seem to understand why a friend would do such a thoughtless thing to a good friend.
“The choice he made seems very intentional on his part, and not in a good way. Honestly, it seems like he thought it would be funny to humiliate you. He takes advantage of the fact that it’s his birthday to get away with it. Luke doesn’t seem like a great friend,” one person said.
A second person pointed out an important distinction about the exact nature of the friend’s gift. “You didn’t offer to give him a few hundred dollars for dinner, you offered to buy dinner for a group you are a member of,” they said. “So if you cannot attend the dinner, it is not a dinner for the group and does not meet the qualifications of your offer.”
What Luke is doing is simply bad etiquette.
Clearly, this friend truly cares about Luke and his happiness. So much so, in fact, that they feel bad just thinking about giving up paying for a dinner they can’t eat.
Luke’s actions are crude and thoughtless. If he truly cared about his friend, he would make sure everyone could be included in some way.
When dining with a group of people, it’s always important to make sure everyone is included. It’s important to make sure there are options for friends with different dietary needs.
As one person on Reddit said: “When going out or inviting others, it is essential that their needs are taken into account as soon as they become part of the group. »
Mary-Faith Martinez is a writer for YourTango covering entertainment, current affairs and human interest topics.